Relationship expert, Solomon Buchi has argued that the concept of mutual submission in marriage, among Christian couples, is a modern distortion of biblical teachings.
In a recent tweet, Solomon Buchi claimed that Christian men are not instructed to submit to their wives; instead, the biblical instruction is for the man to submit to God, and the wife to submit to her husband.
The relationship expert contended that the power dynamic in Christian marriage is not equal but fair, with the man being the leader and the woman submitting to him.
He emphasizes that although a Christian man may not submit to his wife in the mutual sense, he should still listen to her, consider her opinions, and involve her in decision-making.
Buchi believes that inserting equality into this dynamic is a modern skew, and the focus should be on the man’s submission to God for the well-being of the marriage.
He acknowledged the scriptural reference to mutual submission in Ephesians 5:21, but he interpreted it as a general responsibility within the church rather than a mutual submission between spouses.
The relationship expert argued that the subsequent verses specifically address Christian families, with clear instructions for wives to submit to their husbands.
Buchi suggested that attempts by young Christians to justify egalitarian beliefs by interpreting scripture in a more modern and equal light are misguided.
He contended that the inherent structure of Christian marriage may not be equal in expression but is equitable in purpose, emphasizing the importance of understanding and respecting the unchanging nature of God’s word.
“Submission in marriage is not mutual. A Christian man was not instructed to submit to his wife. In our egalitarian desire to equalize concepts, we twist scripture. A man submits to God and his wife submits to him. The concept of mutual submission is modern and wrong,” he tweeted.
“know you’re already feisty, but listen. Concepts don’t have to be two extremes to be valid – just because a Christian man doesn’t submit to his wife doesn’t mean he shouldn’t listen to her, consider her opinions, and make decisions that include her.
“A good leader should be sound enough to listen to his followers, but because he listens to his followers doesn’t mean he is submitted to them. It is a modern day skew to insert equality into the fraction. The power dynamic in Christian marriage is not equal, but it’s fair.
“Look at this: a man should be submitted to God, then you submit to him. Invariably, your safety is in his submission to God, because a God-led man will never be a torn in your flesh.
“Again, it’s not equal in expression, but it’s equitable in purpose. I know the scriptures you want to rebuff me with, but it is popularly misinterpreted.
“Submit yourselves to one another because of your reverence for Christ.” Ephesians 5:21/22. That verse was addressed to the church – it is our responsibility to serve one another.
“In some translations, the subheading change at verse 22 to show a change in the audience to Christian families. If you’re adamant to consider that, why then is there a clear instruction to wives to submit to their husbands in v22?
“Descriptively, Paul even juxtaposes the man’s headship in marriage over his wife to Christ’s headship over the church. The church is submitted to Christ, but Christ does not submit to the Christ.
“I think that as young Christians, we try to justify our egalitarian beliefs with the scripture.
“We want to make God look more fair and just, just to appeal to modern people. It is sad, and I wish we understood that we can’t improve God’s word, because it never gets antiquated.”
KanyiDaily recalls that Solomon Buchi recently took to social media to share some valuable wisdom with all soon-to-be-married couples.