Kanyi Okeke
A friend of Mine Karen wrote this on her blog and i decided to share it with my readers
Oral sex or ‘third base’ is sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitals of a sex partner using the tongue, throat, mouth or teeth. Oral sex can be performed by both partners at the same time in the so-called ‘sixty-nine position’, Spitting and/or swallowing of the ejaculatory fluids or giving a ‘pearl necklace’ may cause different sexual stimulations. ‘Autofellatio’ is a possible but rare variant;‘autocunnilingus’ may also be possible for women with extremely flexible spines…..continue reading
Now enough of the sex-ed class.
I have heard tons of people complain about not getting oral sex from their partners, this complaint is more common in women. While I have a nonchalant attitude towards the whole practice – I really don’t care either way if a guy goes down on me or not – most Nigerian women do not share the same sentiments.
While most Nigerian men believe it is their right to have their dicks sucked, they do not accord the same courtesy to their women thus some women have adopted the ‘scratch my back I scratch your back rule’ – they won’t give you a blow job unless you go down on them first.
While I have been in a relationship were my partner never went down on me, I didn’t really see the big deal even though sometimes I wondered if the reason why he never broached the subject was because he really wasn’t that into me – forget the other option I know my vagina smells just fine… I checked *sniffs* Either way I didn’t really let it bother me too much as I am one of those women who feels an aversion to going down on a guy.
Now for the ladies who do not have such a nonchalant attitude towards cunninlingus or the lack of it in their relationship, here are four reasons why he probably won’t go down on you.
He Just Doesn’t Want To
Yes, he probably just doesn’t want to be bothered with the intricacies of eating your ‘snail’, just like some women, some men also do not like to go down south. I have even heard some Nigerian men say it is a ‘traditional thing’ and they feel it is an insult for a woman to expect them to perform what they see as a vile act. Well, your man just might fit into this type so don’t worry your pretty little head about it, its not you, its him.
Your Vagina Smells Bad
This seems to be the problem most of the time, I’ve often heard men complain about encounters with women who suffer from what I like to call ‘Smelly Vagina Syndrome’. So if your man gives you a funny face when you try to subtly push his head down there then you should do something about your stinky vijayjay asap! Get some mild feminine wash and get rid of that putrid smell, if this doesn’t work then you might be suffering from a form of Sexually Transmitted Disease or atoilet infection. Infected vagina has the tendency to produce smelly discharge no matter how many times you wash or douche, so see a doctor immediately.
He is Just not That Into You
While this reason is mostly saddening it just might be the case. If a man is not really into you he won’t want to participate in a very intimate act like oral sex, all he’ll want is the actual sexual act and he’s on his way. So if you feel like this is the reason then get your ass out the door and find a man that really likes you and is willing to do anything to keep you satisfied.
You Don’t Shave
While I must applaud most women for their attention to detail when it comes to grooming their vagina area, some still don’t shave. This just might be the reason why your man is reluctant to perform cunnilingus on you, a bushy vagina is a serious turn off for most men, no one wants to be picking out pubic hairs from their teeth with a toothpick afterwards. So do your man a favour, get a clean shave or better still wax it!
Fellas remember, just like Chris Rock says: “if you don’t go down on your woman you will lose her like a set of keys”
The real trick ladies is to use Femfresh intimate wash down there daily, and
he’ll coming begging to suck up your nice smelling fresh juices! femfresh
has made a big difference in the sexual lives of so many couples. If that
doesn’t work, then you should be looking for another guy, but I’m sure
Femfresh will work, they even have the deodorant spray now, which not
only cures, but prevents the bacteria that produces the smell from
multiplying, but what’s wrong with a bit of smell anyway? makes it more
tasty
Whoever compiled this post knows her game! #2 is the major reason why guys don't go down there. . . .and i almost rolled on the floor laffing when i read the concluding part of #4, "picking ones teeth to remove the stuck hairs"! Great post!
Oral sex is now an important part of our sex life because most women and even men love it. If your woman wants it, give it to her pleasurely. If she does not shave, let her know.
Nice write up
Daily use of intimate wash makes d ph of d vagina which is originally meant 2b 5.5 higher cos in d course of yu trying to eradictae some bacteria dat give it dat PH it make ur vagina prone 2ani disease and as such can lead 2infection leading to thick discharge!
False about intimate wash! What an uneducated comment. Use it responsibly to wash the outer parts, it doesn't make your vagina prone to any disease. If in doubt ask an O&G.
I'd go down on any girl dat is completely clean and smells nice..I am Nigerian and not bothered about givin it bit once I perceive any bad odour I don't even get turned on so I don't ave sex either. for me, b clean and any guy dese days wld go down else der lose d girl if she finds me.
Wow, nice write up, going down is always the best. Give it a trail if you've not………
Lol
I have been with my boyfriend almost 7 years and he has only went down on me once within that time. What could be the problem. I don't have a odar and I keep shaved. Please help me understand. He always wants a blow job but why should I do him if he won't do me?
Hi, talk to him about it. Find out his reasons for not doing so.
The smell is not the number 1 reason altho it is a good resaon fpr refusal the number 1 is genetics if you parts look like a dog chewed it or it juss came out of a meat grinder or ur clit is huge ot could be a problem