Woman Cries For A Husband And Kids, Says She Feels “Betrayed By Feminism’ [Video]

A 38-year-old woman, Melissa Persling has cried out and blamed feminism after she ended her marriage because of her husband’s demands.

In article for Business Insider, Melissa Persling shared her transformative journey from embracing singlehood to realizing her deep desire for a family.

In the article, the woman said, “I’m 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child. I’m terrified I’ve missed my opportunity.”

In a subsequent interview with Fox News Digital, Melissa emotionally opened up about her fears of loneliness and childlessness, attributing her situation to what she perceived as the negative impact of feminism.

The woman has now decided as she approaches her 39th birthday that she wants to settle down, have a family and a husband.

Persling, who had previously married a traditional man at 22, moved to a rural community in Coeur d’Alene ,Idaho, said she felt “betrayed by feminism”.

The feminist said she initially resisted to the idea of a family, focused on her career, causing irreconcilable differences with her husband.

“He wanted a simple life with children and home-cooked meals. At that time I felt very strongly I did not want children, that I wasn’t going to be like the traditional housewife.

“I knew I did want to pursue a career, and I felt very strongly that that would never change. And I guess I was wrong,” she told Fox News.

Persling said she and her ex thought that love could conquer everything, but after 10 years, it was clear their differences in life goals were irreconcilable. She became resentful when he would ask for dinner or for his laundry to be done.

“I did little to hide my disdain for our small-town life. He was a good and hardworking man, but I don’t think I made him feel that way,” she said.

She said that after a decade when she was 30, their marriage ended, leaving her determined to pursue independence and a fulfilling career.

“I told my friends and family I’d never get married again. I needed independence, a fulfilling career, and space to chart my own course, and I didn’t think marriage fit into that vision.

“I was content to look toward a future without a husband, children, or the trappings of a ‘traditional’ life,’” Melissa Persling wrote.

However, as she approached 38, the fun, carefree lifestyle, being wined and dined, and going to parties began to get old.

Persling said terror began to take over and she began feeling a sense of urgency and a desire for stability, marriage, and children.

The woman reflected on her evolving perspective, admitting that the carefree lifestyle she once enjoyed had lost its appeal.

“I was panic-stricken. I really thought I’m going to be alone forever. It really scared me. I don’t want people to miss out on the important things in life because they’re just enjoying themselves because I don’t think that that’s ever going to really make you happy,” she said.

“I hardly recognized myself. I also began to feel selfish for spending so much time focusing solely on myself… My very existence started to feel shallow and hollow.”

Reflecting on her past, Persling recognized the need for self-discovery and healing from the trauma of her parents’ divorce.

Her parents’ divorce, which she described as coming from “a broken home,” took time to heal and sort through to find out what she really wanted.

“I grew up in a fairly traditional family, but my parents were divorced. And I would say that probably had some effect on my feelings about having a family coming from a broken home certainly has its hardships,” she told Fox News Digital.

During her journey, she met with a stranger in a coffee shop who offered her words of encouragement, telling her not to lose hope – that God had a plan for her.

Post-publication, Persling shared a positive update, revealing that her life took a happy turn after rekindling a friendship with a man. They are now discussing marriage and a shared future.

She said: “So it’s a guy that I’ve been friends with, and we’ve always just sort of stayed in touch. And we did go on one date about a year ago, and I told him, ‘I just want to be friends with you.’”

After her epiphany that she wanted a traditional life – the realization that he was “the one” hit her like “a ton of bricks,” she said.

Persling emphasized the importance of genuine love and building a life with another person, distinguishing it from the anxiety-driven relationships of her past.

She said, “This guy is the one that God’s been preparing for me. I’ve had these relationships since where there were so many butterflies and so many like, ‘Oh my gosh, checking my phone. Did he text?’ And I realized, that’s not love. 

“That’s anxiety. I never knew where I stood with those people. I could never envision a future with those people.”

The  woman expressed readiness for a modest and meaningful future, free from extravagant pursuits.

“Moving into my future, I’m not going to be traveling. I’m not going to have a lot of extra money. I’m not going to be going out for fancy dinners and I’m OK with that,” she said.

“I’m ready for that. I think that’s what’s really going to make me happy. Like I’m so done just making myself happy.”

“You think you’re happy when you’re doing all these things [when you’re single] to make yourself happy. I don’t think you really are.

“It’s the relationships that make you happy. It’s building something with another person. It’s creating a life with another person, having goals and plans with another person.

“It’s making other people happy. Making people you love happy. That’s happiness. I really don’t think I will know true happiness until I’m in that place.”

While she doesn’t consider herself a feminist, Persling acknowledged that her negative views on marriage were partially influenced by feminist ideals.

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