This Man Is Dating Someone Even Though He’s Married. Sounds Somehow?

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   Anonymous

   January 14, 2014 at 1:52 pm

   Sometimes a marriage gets stale and monotonous, and we forget to continue learning about our spouse. The same is true in long term relationships, no matter if you’re gay, straight, bi, or whatever. Often times, we forget why we got married or who it is we married when life gets busy and stressful. Our spouse gets neglected, and the marriage fails. I experienced things like this in my marriage…although it was for different reasons. However, I’ve seen it happen in those around me, and I’ve even seen it in some family members’ marriages.

   We get married, and then we stop dating. The children arrive, we work more, life gets busier, and before we know it we’re left with an empty house and two people who have no idea who the other truly is anymore. When we say our vows, we promise not to let anyone get in the way of our marriage…shouldn’t that include the children? Yes, we have a responsibility to care and provide for our children, but our first promise was to each other. How can two people parent children effectively, if they’re not on the same page or don’t communicate and stay on track with where the other person is coming from? Parents, married couples, need alone time to nurture their marriage and check in with each other to keep that spark…that love…alive. Marriage is a commitment, a promise with your soul, to never leave that person’s side no matter what. How can that promise stay strong if the marriage isn’t tended to?

   When I read this blog entry, it reminded me of a movie I watched. I cried my eyes out, because I saw so many of the negatives in my marriage, but no matter what I did nothing worked. Like I said, my issues were for different reasons. I didn’t know what the reasons were until we were seven years into the marriage…but that’s not what this particular blog is about. This blog is about always seeing (not literally, more on a deeper level) the person you’re married to. As we grow older, we change on the inside. Our views change when we have children, perhaps we experience something that is life altering and our heart changes, or someone treats us in a hurtful way…our significant other needs to know these things so he/she can understand what motivates you and drives you to do or say what you do.

   The movie I was referring to in the above paragraph is called “Fireproof.” It’s a beautiful story about a married couple who sort of lose each other, and forget what’s really important in their lives. It is a Christian film, but the message is true for most religious affiliation.

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   Anonymous

   January 14, 2014 at 2:10 pm

   Great article Kanyi, i see a lot of marriages looking like they were forced to marry. Most men abandon their wives once they start giving them babies, looking for someone more beautiful and fresh. Forgetting that they can make their wives go bck to how they were by sending them to gyms or getting them personal trainers.

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   lara croft

   January 14, 2014 at 8:38 pm

   Beautiful article

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   Anonymous

   January 15, 2014 at 2:20 am

   I have lern a lot of lession in this beautiful article.kanyi okeke,thank u so much for the job well don,God bless u.

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