Tobias Sylvester
Nollywood actress, Halima Abubakar, has insisted that any sex that is not consensual is rape, adding that a man should never make love to his wife without her consent.
The sultry actress, who stated this during a recent interview with PUNCH, also adviced women to report their husbands to family members and authorities if thier sexual wishes are not respected.
She said: “There have been reports that some homes broke up because of sex but I am sorry to say this, some people are limited in their sexual expression because of religion. Some women just lie down there (during sex) because they are scared of expressing themselves. But, men can encourage their women to be more expressive, without using abusive languages.
“Also, if the woman is not in the mood, her wishes should be respected. There are other things, aside from sex, that a man should concern himself with. I consider it a turn off for a man to like sex too much. I feel some men are insatiable (sexually). Some people have said that when one is legally married, there is nothing like rape. But, I don’t agree with that. Any sex that is not consensual is rape. The woman could even get injured in the process. Would we still call that pleasure?
“One’s husband should not forcefully have sex with one. I am not saying a man should not have sex, but he should control his appetite for it so that it doesn’t lead to his destruction. I feel the wife can report this kind of case if she cannot talk to the husband, but should go to the family first. If he does not change, then she should take it to the authorities.”
Abubakar also advocated for castration as the ideal punishment for rapists. She added, “Any rapist caught should be castrated because rape is a pandemic just like COVID-19. Many people do not seem to know the extent to which rape damages victims psychologically. People have to take responsibility for their behaviours. I know a lady that eventually died after being raped. She went through hell. I also know a man who tried something with a neighbour’s child but thankfully, he did not succeed. Because of that, I don’t talk to him till date. Rapists should be castrated. When it is done to some of them, others will learn how to control themselves or get married.”
KanyiDaily recalls that a few months ago, Halima Abubakar made a shocking claim that over 40 percent of married men in Nigeria are bi-sexual.
